31 12 / 2013

hollyjollytwinksofthestoneage:

I BOUGHT MYSELF A DRESS AND NOW I AM INVINCIBLE

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30 12 / 2013

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29 12 / 2013


shortformblog
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A big victory for trans rights: A lot of insurance companies refuse to cover gender reassignment surgery, but Connecticut ruled last week that all insurers in the state have to cover both the surgery and other treatments related to gender dysphoria, including hormone therapy and counseling. The determination was based on two existing laws: One banning discrimination based on gender identity, and one requiring insurers to cover mental health treatment. Gender dysphoria is listed as a mental health disorder in the latest DSM; while there are a lot of reasons one could reasonably be upset about this, the upshot is that it gave the Connecticut Insurance Department additional legal justification for bolstering the rights of trans folk in the state. 

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28 12 / 2013

03 10 / 2013

Trans man chooses death after botched surgical transition.
After a childhood of neglect, a Belgian man said he ‘did not want to be a monster’ before asking a doctor to euthanize him. [02 OCTOBER 2013 | BY JOE MORGAN (Source.)]


A trans man has chosen to be killed after his body rejected surgery to complete his transition.
Nathan Verhelst, 44, from Belgium, said he had ‘unbearable psychological suffering’ and asked a doctor to euthanize him.
On Monday afternoon (30 September), he died from a lethal injection.
Back in 2009, Verhelst started hormone therapy and had a mastectomy. Last year, he underwent surgery to construct a penis.
But when he looked in the mirror, his body was rejecting the surgery.
‘None of these operations worked as desired,’ Verhelst told a Belgian newspaper, hours before he went to die.
‘I was ready to celebrate my new birth, but when I looked in the mirror, I was disgusted with myself.
‘My new breasts did not match my expectations and my new penis had symptoms of rejection.
‘I did not want to be a monster.’
The man who carried out the lethal injection was Professor Wim Distelmans, a controversial figure who last year ended the lives of deaf twins who were going blind. Euthanasia is legal in Belgium as long as certain conditions are met.
Verhelst informed his family of his decision to die in a letter. ‘I had happy times, but the balance is on the wrong side,’ he said.
He recalled how his mother had loved his brothers, but appeared to hate him because he was born in the body of a girl.
‘While my brothers were celebrated,’ he said, ‘I got a storage room above the garage as a bedroom.
‘My mother complained, “If only you had been a boy”.’
Verhelst’s mother confirmed she had not wanted him.
‘When I saw [Nathan’s birth name] for the first time, my dream was shattered. She was so ugly. I had a phantom birth. Her death does not bother me,’ his mother told Het Laatste Nieuws newspaper.
‘I will definitely read the letter but it will be full of lies.
‘For me, this chapter is closed. Her death does not bother me. I feel no sorrow, no doubt or remorse. We never had a bond.’

Trans man chooses death after botched surgical transition.

After a childhood of neglect, a Belgian man said he ‘did not want to be a monster’ before asking a doctor to euthanize him. [02 OCTOBER 2013 | BY JOE MORGAN (Source.)]

A trans man has chosen to be killed after his body rejected surgery to complete his transition.

Nathan Verhelst, 44, from Belgium, said he had ‘unbearable psychological suffering’ and asked a doctor to euthanize him.

On Monday afternoon (30 September), he died from a lethal injection.

Back in 2009, Verhelst started hormone therapy and had a mastectomy. Last year, he underwent surgery to construct a penis.

But when he looked in the mirror, his body was rejecting the surgery.

‘None of these operations worked as desired,’ Verhelst told a Belgian newspaper, hours before he went to die.

‘I was ready to celebrate my new birth, but when I looked in the mirror, I was disgusted with myself.

‘My new breasts did not match my expectations and my new penis had symptoms of rejection.

‘I did not want to be a monster.’

The man who carried out the lethal injection was Professor Wim Distelmans, a controversial figure who last year ended the lives of deaf twins who were going blind. Euthanasia is legal in Belgium as long as certain conditions are met.

Verhelst informed his family of his decision to die in a letter. ‘I had happy times, but the balance is on the wrong side,’ he said.

He recalled how his mother had loved his brothers, but appeared to hate him because he was born in the body of a girl.

‘While my brothers were celebrated,’ he said, ‘I got a storage room above the garage as a bedroom.

‘My mother complained, “If only you had been a boy”.’

Verhelst’s mother confirmed she had not wanted him.

‘When I saw [Nathan’s birth name] for the first time, my dream was shattered. She was so ugly. I had a phantom birth. Her death does not bother me,’ his mother told Het Laatste Nieuws newspaper.

‘I will definitely read the letter but it will be full of lies.

‘For me, this chapter is closed. Her death does not bother me. I feel no sorrow, no doubt or remorse. We never had a bond.’

30 9 / 2013

Gender doesn’t make me who I am.

29 9 / 2013

demonsonthemoon:

You know what? I really admire people who can live without labels. I really admire people who can live knowing that they’re non-binary but do not feel the need to define their gender. I really admire people who are sometimes sexually attracted and sometimes not but aren’t exactly demisexual and do not feel the need to clarify more than that. I really admire people who are attracted to more than one gender but that’s just that for them and they don’t need to ask themselves if they’re bisexual, pansexual or anything else. I really admire people who don’t believe in any religion but don’t feel the need to call themselves agnostic or atheist, because they just don’t need a belief to identify as themselves.

I really admire people who can live without labels. Because the truth is, I don’t really think I can. Defining a part of myself that’s been troubling me with a word is relieving. It’s comforting. Knowing that I can identify as this word, that has a definition, gives me meaning too, it reassures me by telling me I’m not wrong, I’m not broken, because who I am is a thing that exists.

What I’m saying is… Some people find labels important. Some people don’t. Some find them reassuring. Some find them confining. It’s okay. I think. Destroying the labels because “we’re all the same” isn’t a good thing. Putting labels on everyone isn’t a good thing either, because we’re all different.

Someone is having a hard time finding who they are, what word best describe them? Tell them it’s okay. Tell them they don’t necessarily have to find a word. Then, help them look. Hold their hand as they look through pages and pages of online dictionary entries. And tell them it’s okay.

If they do find a word, use it. Use it like it’s their name and let them wear it like their favorite shirt. If they don’t find a word, love them. Cherish the syllables of their favorite nickname and make them feel like that, that deserves to be put in a dictionary.

And the only think you need to be careful about, is that labels aren’t supposed to be boxes. They’re more like big old comforters. You can curl up inside them, and it makes you feel safe and relaxed, but once they get itchy or start to suffocate you, you can kick them off of your bed without it hurting anyone.

Words are important. But sometimes they’re also unnecessary. And it’s okay.

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28 9 / 2013

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29 8 / 2013

thoughthewaybearduousandstrange:

You know why I think feminist commentaries are missing a major point?

Because yesterday, for the first time in my life, I left a movie theatre hearing a little boy say to his dad “I wanna be Mako”.

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29 8 / 2013

metapianycist:

Passing Techniques for People assigned-female at birth. For Men, Other Genders, and Girls who enjoy androgyny.

  • Suggestions for things to do with your appearance if you’re DFAB and want to appear more masculine or more androgynous.

A Custom Fit: Tailoring Tips For Wearing Menswear

  • Instructions for altering men’s clothing for wear on persons with an estrogenized fat distribution. (Note: Target audience is cis women, but the tips for clothing alteration can be used by anyone who wants to alter men’s shirts to make them more form-fitting.)

Passing Techniques for People assigned-male at birth. For Women, Other Genders, and Guys who enjoy androgyny or femininity.

  • Same site as Passing Techniques above; suggestions for subtle things to do with your appearance if you’re DMAB and want to appear more feminine or more androgynous.

Instructions for tucking, taping and how to make a gaff out of pantyhose

  • Exactly what it says in the link text. For if you have external genitalia that you want to make appear flat when wearing clothing.

Simple Binders

  • A site that makes handmade custom-sized chest binders and sells them for 10 USD each plus shipping. Ships to any country. (Shipping within the U.S. is $6, and to the UK, Canada or Australia is 7 USD.)

Strohecker’s Compounding Pharmacy

  • A pharmacy that compounds injectable testosterone and estradiol, topical testosterone and estrogen creams, and oral testosterone and estrogen. You can order those things from this website once you have a prescription for hormones from a doctor. I do not yet have personal experience with this pharmacy, but I plan to get testosterone cream from this pharmacy when I get my testotsterone prescription, on the recommendation of a person I met at this year’s Trans Health Conference.

(via transgenderteensurvivalguide)